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Part 3, Good Mouth, Bad Mouth

“The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life, but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence.”
Proverbs 10:11 NASB

Because there are over one hundred verses relating to the mouth, lips, tongue, and speech found in Proverbs, it’s impossible to cover the wealth of information in five short doses. So, hang with me as I attempt to whet your appetite to do further study on your own. With that in mind, I want to zoom in on chapter 10 of Proverbs and compare the mouth of the righteous to that of the wicked and foolish person.

We read in Matthew 15:18 that the things that proceed out of the mouth come from the heart. If in my very being I focus on God, then according to verses in Proverbs 10, my upright speech is like a fountain of life (vs. 11). It flows with wisdom (vs. 13, 31), is like choice silver (vs. 20), feeds many (vs. 21), and brings forth what is acceptable (vs. 32).

On the flip side, a heart focused on self and the world is more likely to let unkind, hurtful, and shameful words spew forth. The foolish, wicked mouth hides violence (vs. 6, 11), brings ruin (vs. 14), will be cut out (vs. 31), and is perverted (vs. 32). Let’s avoid these pitfalls at all costs by never letting sin go unchecked in our lives. Thank goodness, we serve a merciful God who forgives us when we confess our sins. Unlike having our mouths simply washed out with soap, His cleansing goes all the way to the heart.

One last thought and I close. Have you ever been burned by fire? I remember checking the broiler of a gas stove and having a blast of flames hit me in the face. It about scared me to death! A quick check revealed singed hair around my temples, as well as my eyebrows and eyelashes; the face was a little pink and tender. My point is this: fire can hurt, destroy, wound, and produce fear.

“A worthless man digs up evil, while his words are like scorching fire.” Proverbs 16:27 NASB

How careful we should be to avoid letting our words become a devastating inferno. Instead, let’s strive daily with God’s help to speak with a pure heart, bringing grace, life, healing, and peace to those around us.

“All the utterances of my mouth are in righteousness; There is nothing crooked or perverted in      them.” Proverbs 8:8 NASB

[Digging deeper – Psalm 37:30; Prov. 11:9a, 12:6, 15:2, 28; 16:13b, 23; James 3:5-10]

Speaking rightly,

Beverly <><

 

 

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Part 2, Fitting Words for Unfitting Moments

“Everyone enjoys a fitting reply; it is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time!”
Prov. 15:23 NLT

The silent atmosphere in the truck between Emory and me was tense. Miscommunication and assumption on both our parts had resulted in raised voices, heightened emotions, and blame. What had started out as a fun errand had turned into a sullied stand-off. Apologies and forgiveness were eventually given, but our careless words over an insignificant disagreement had been anything but right!

Our focus today will be on Proverbs 15. In this single chapter, we find several verses pertaining to the mouth and the good or bad it can bring in adverse situations with others. The choice is ours.

“Pleasant words are pure.” (vs. 26b, NASB).

Sounds simple enough, right? Yet, in the heat of the moment, our words are often anything but pure, much less pleasant. This simple instruction says not only do we need to be careful of what we say, but how we say it. Our words need to be clean, wholesome, and untainted. Likewise, if given in a welcome tone and humble attitude, others are more likely to receive them.

Verse 28 offers some how-to help for verse 26 –

“The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours out evil things.”

If you are a believer, then you are righteous because of what Jesus did on the cross for you. In the midst of conflict, turn to Him for strength to hold your tongue as you purposefully consider how you should respond. This doesn’t come easy for most of us. It takes practice and willingness to give up being right or having the last say in a dispute.

The following verses in Proverbs 15 offer two more options for us to consider.

 

“A gentle answer turns away wrath” (vs. 1a), and

“A soothing tongue is a tree of life” (vs. 4a)

– OR –

 

“…a harsh word stirs up anger” (vs.1b), and

 

 

 

“… perversion in it crushes the spirit” (vs. 4b).

Gentle and soothing is so much better than harsh and perverted, don’t you think? And who wouldn’t choose peace and life over anger and wounds? It takes maturity and discipline to contemplate and think before speaking. Yet, you can do it with God’s help!

I challenge you to consider the benefits of a ‘fitting reply’ and the joy it brings when we have right words to give. Let’s be life-givers, not life-crushers.

[Digging deeper – Ps. 141:3; Prov. 24:26, 25:11; 1 Peter 3:15]

Pondering my words,

Beverly <><

 

 

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Part 1, Oh, My Words!

“My child, listen when your father corrects you. Don’t neglect your mother’s instruction.” 
Proverbs 1:8 NLT

OK, so I know the old saying is “Oh, my word!”, but simply add an s, and you have the focus for a series of doses we’ll be looking at over the next few days. There is life and death in the power of the tongue and Proverbs has a lot to say about our words – over a hundred verses!

Within the first seven chapters of Proverbs, we read repeatedly how children are to heed, listen to, follow, and cling to the instruction, teaching, and wisdom of their parents. Little ears are listening in so many places and are in desperate need of godly parental guidance.

What are some of the advantages and results listed in the Scriptures for children who observe their parent’s godly advice and instruction? A list from Proverbs includes:

Will be like a crown on your head and a chain of honor around your neck (1:9).

Will discern the fear of the Lord and discover the knowledge of God (2:5).

Will lead to a full life, peace, favor, and good reputation (3:2, 4)

Will be a source of life and health (4:22)

Will lead you, protect you, advise you (6:22).

Will help keep you from sexual temptation (7:24-25)

As parents, our children are hearing, and observing everything we do. Do you carefully consider your speech? Do you use God’s Word to instill correction, as well as direction, comfort, and kindness into their young lives? Will they learn how to biblically respond in confrontational situations by what they hear coming from your mouth?

“But I’m not a mother,” or “I’m an empty nester” you may say. Even so, I bet youngsters in various venues are listening to you. As teachers, instructors, coaches, tutors, and employers, our words speak volumes to today’s youth. Often, we aren’t aware that they are even paying attention. We need to pray for that sense of awareness.

Like the sons in Proverbs, are the young ones in your sphere of influence gaining life and victory due to your teaching? Are they experiencing the incredible benefits of God’s word because they hear it spoken from your lips? Has your wisdom helped steer them to make good choices?

Regardless of what role you may fill – single mom, grandmother, a beloved aunt, a big sister, a submissive wife, or just a friend – your talk can have an eternal impact on the sons and daughters of the next generation. Let your daily prayer flow from verse 14 of Psalm 19: “Let the words of my mouth and the meditation of my heart be acceptable in Your sight, O LORD, my rock and my Redeemer.”

[Digging deeper – Prov. 4:1-5, 6:20-22; 31:26; Eph. 4:29]

Speaking the truth,

Beverly <><

 

 

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